Should I stay or should I go?

A big thing that happens in a relationship is that people tend to get in your business. Your friends tell you their opinion on a guy and sometimes it's not what you want to hear. Friends tell you if the person you are dating is cute or bad/good for you. When people tell  you that a person isn't good enough for you and that you should break up with them, you tend to wonder if you should listen to them and end it. Here's a few tips on what you should really do in this situation. Tip 1 DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM!!! It is your relationship not theirs, if you are happy with that person that's all that matters. Tip 2 if people are really your friends they would not be telling you to break up with a person who makes you truly happy. Tip 3 never ever put your friend before your relationship when that friend has been telling you from day one to end your relationship. Friends can get jealous of your relationship or hate the fact that you are spending your time with a new person. I know people who have ended their relationship because friends and people got in between their relationship and now wonder if they would have lasted together. I also know people who have ignored their friends opinions and are happy with their boyfriend/girlfriend. The only time you should listen to someone's opinion is when they have good reasons to want you to end the relationship, such as the person is controlling, is abusive, or they have noticed a big change in your behavior that worry them. I understand that sometimes it can get annoying when people constantly tell you that you should end the relationship but sometimes it's understandable. It is your relationship though and you have the final say what you do with it. If deep down you feel like you should end it then do it but make sure it's because you want to and not your friends. If you want to keep going with your relationship then go for it. A relationships is between two people not three or four. You as a person is old enough to decide what you should do. My mom told me that she will never tell me if she likes or dislike any of my boyfriends because it is my relationship. She said this because she never wants me to base my relationship of her opinion because sometimes a person she may like I might not like. If you know you are old enough to have a relationship then you should be strong enough to tell a person "Hey, this is MY relationship not yours." So to all of you guys with a relationship where everyone seems to be getting up in your business, stay strong and do what your heart and mind tells you.

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Broken, Yet Holding On...

Recently my friend and her boyfriend of one year broke up. She is letting me tell her story as long as I don't mention her name. My friend and her boyfriend had been together for a year, she took things slow talked and was friends with him for a long time before dating. Sadly he ended the relationship through a message telling her he never loved her or cared about her. She then later found out half way through their relationship he had been cheating on her. Things like this happen in many relationships, in high school or in marriages. She was not crying when she told me this but instead was being strong. When she was telling me this she kept repeating this " I feel so broken but yet I'm holding on to him." I told her of a song I listened to when my relationship ended. She listened to it and tears formed and she softly said " This is how I feel right now." She asked me for advice how to deal with this and how can she trust another person again. I just told her I know how it feels like to trust someone and have them destroy that by going behind your back and cheat on you. I told her the best thing to do is to be strong and remember everything happens for a reason. I know she is angry, hurt, sad, broken but holding on, and denying everything that happened just wishing it was just a dream. The way I dealt with it was by talking to someone and remembering that not all guys are the same. I told her being able to trust someone again after being cheated on will be hard but it is possible. There will be a guy who will come into your life and not make you worry about it. You will trust him and not have any doubt in your relationship. A man will respect you and take care of your heart and boy will just take it and play with it. I am not saying only boys cheat because trust me I know a couple guys who were cheated on. I tell them something different, that a girl like that is not worth anything. A girl who cheats on her boyfriend in my eyes is worst, especially when I see the girl who cheated on my friend on Facebook saying "why can I not get any good guys who will stay faithful to me?" When I read something like that when they cheated on one of my friends I feel like commenting because you aren't faithful in a relationship but I don't. Cheating is a big thing that happens in many relationships. I don't have an answer on why it happens but I do know all of us can make it through it when it happens. Boy or Girl no matter what it can happen to you. If you are a girl who has cheated on a boyfriend and then later on wonder why you can't have a good relationship remember that boy who was so good to you but you threw it all away. If you are a boy who had cheated on a girlfriend remember that she will not be the same after that, she will have a hard time trusting other guys and feel like that all guys are the same. My only piece advice for all of you who have been cheated on because I have been cheated on before too, is just don't give up because if you do you will miss out on meeting a great person who can make you forget everything that has happened.
HERE IS THE SONG I TOLD MY FRIEND TO LISTEN TO! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_BN40gfnzw

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We Are Just Friends

There are many kinds of relationships out there and a big one is the best friend relationship. I have actually four best friends, they are  the people I can talk to about anything no matter what. A big thing I hear people say is that boys and girls can not be best friends. I believe that many people say that because of feelings that one can develop for the other. My best friend Tyler and I have been best friends for over a year now, I can talk to him about anything that is going on in my life. At work everyone assumed that there was something going on between us because we are always together, they were wrong. Tyler is my best friend, he's the one I go to when I have problem and the one I cry to when I feel like giving up. There has never been any feelings between us and there never will be. Tyler and I have gone on dates as you can see in the picture, he was my date to sweethearts but it did not feel like a date. When Chris and I dated he never once questioned the relationship between Tyler and I when others said that there had to be something going on between us. Chris and Tyler actually became good friends and still are. I also know how it feels like to like a best friend though. When I was in middle school I had a crush on my best friend Isaac but it was for a short time. When you like your best friend you always debate in your head if they like you or not and you get scared of telling them because it can ruin your friendship. I have a few tips on how to deal with this kind of situation. Tip 1 do not get scared of ever telling your best friend on how you feel, the reason they are your best friend is because  you can tell them anything and wont judge you. Let your feelings known and if they truly are your best friend they will stay by your side. Tip 2 it's best for them to hear it from you if they like you, if other people know your feelings for your best friend and tell them things can get awkward. The whole time your best friend will wonder if it is true that you like them even if you don't. Tip 3 if your best friend tells you they like you, tell them straight up how you feel about them. Do NOT sugar coat it or ignore them, that will just make them think you don't want to be their friend anymore. Now if you have a situation like Tyler and I, where  you have a boyfriend or girlfriend and everyone assumes your cheating on them with your best friend here are some tips. Tip 1 tell your boyfriend or girlfriend straight up " Hey, we are just best friends nothing more." it will assure them that there is nothing going on. Tip 2 if your partner still believes that maybe something is going on introduce them to your best friend they will see you have nothing to hide and they will see how much your best friend respects your relationship. Tip 3 if anything ever did happen between you and your best friend such as you guys kissed once or gone on dates before, tell your partner that will show them that you are honest with them and wont hide anything from them. I hope these tips help you guys in these two situations and just remember just because your a boy and girl and are best friends doesn't mean there will be feelings between you. It just means you guys have a bond that will be there for a long time and doesn't ever have to be more then that.

Breaking up

Recently my boyfriend and I broke up and even though it was hard on me we are still friends. Many people ask me "how can you stay friends with your ex boyfriend?" It is not easy but it is possible if you try. Chris and I are super close so when we broke up it was hard for us not to talk. For always having the connection between  us there it was easy for us to stay friends. If you honestly care about an ex you can stay friends but I know sometimes you cannot. Here are some tips of ways you and your ex can be friends or at least kind to each other. First tip, always hear why the break up happened, when Chris broke up with me I got upset and left. He called me the next day and he told me why, it made me feel bad because it honestly was a good reason and not because he didn't like me anymore. Tip number two make sure you and the person you like are super close before you start your relationship, if a break up happens you two will always have a connection making the person want you in their life. My last and final tip is never ever yell or call your ex names you went out with them for reason and also turning your friends/family against them is a big N-O. Yes,  breaking up is always hard and you get mad and want to call your ex names but honestly you wouldn't do that if they never broke up with you. Another piece advice is for you girls out there, never let your friends talk bad about any of your exes because they "dumped" you. They have no right to call him a jerk or any other name because I bet if you would have broken his heart instead your friends wouldn't call you a jerk.I hope this helps out a bit to those who have an ex they still care about, just know it is possible because look at me and my ex we are still close to each other.

This picture was taken before we started going out.

The Slower, the Better

GET TO KNOW SOMEONE – SLOWLY. Usually, people show only their best qualities in the beginning of new relationship. Given some time, unhealthy people will show their unhealthy side too - it’s only after some time has passed do they let their guards down and then the unhealthy behaviors come rolling out! http://canyourel8.com/relationship-tips
Relationships should always start off slow, get to know each other before making your relationship "official." My boyfriend and I were friends for awhile before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. The best way to know if he/she is acting real with you is by spending time together. Hang out alone and with friends just because people tend to act different alone and with their peers. You never want to rush into things when it involves another person. The slower the better meaning you don't want to jump into a relationship right away or rush things to make your relationship serious when you guys barely started being an "item." In my relationship Chris and I took things slow, we got to know each other, our friends, and families. It made our relationship a lot easier, never being nervous or worried about meeting each others' parents. By being friends with the person you like, you will get to know them in a different way. Once you two become an item, things will not be as hard because you got to know your boo as a person/friend.

Introduction

Hey, I'm Yuvia and I am writing a relationship blog for my high school jouranalism class. I will write facts on relationships and my own personal relationship, as well as my friends' relationships. I will not just be talking about boyfriend and girlfriend relationships, but also of friendships, siblings, and marriages.